Wondering if it's okay to have sex during pregnancy, how it feels, or what positions work with a growing belly? It's completely normal! Midwives Lelystad we explain everything you want to know about intimacy in these special times.

We assure you that most of the time, sex is not only safe, but can also strengthen your bond. There are times when you need to be careful, and we’ll cover those too. Whether you’re newly pregnant or almost due, read along – we’ll guide you through it with a mix of information and a relaxed tone. Let’s get started!

Can you have sex when you are pregnant?

Many expectant parents wonder if sex is safe during pregnancy. Usually the answer is yes Yes, unless your midwife or doctor tells you otherwise due to specific risks. Pay close attention to how you feel – your desire for intimacy can change from stage to stage.

If all goes well, there are nice ways to enjoy together. Here are some tips:

Choose positions that do not put strain on your abdomen.
Talk openly with your partner about what you want.
Use pillows for extra comfort.

Phase	Advice	Tip
Start	Check your energy – fatigue may be a factor.	Try it in the morning when you are fit.
Middle	You often feel better, your mood can grow.	Try out different poses.
End	Comfort is getting harder – adapt.	Lying on your side can work well.

Listen to your body and your doctor. It shouldn't hurt. If in doubt, call your midwife - they will help you further.

Changing sex drive

Your desires can go all over the place during pregnancy – and that’s okay. Sometimes you’ll feel more like it, sometimes you won’t. Hormones are driving that quite a bit. You might feel tired or nauseous at first, but halfway through you’ll often feel a spike in your libido as it subsides.

Everyone reacts differently. Some get more feeling by extra blood down there, which boosts pleasure. But you can also feel less sexy because of your changing body. This helps:

Share your thoughts with your partner – openness works.
Try poses that feel good now.
Stop if it doesn't feel right – don't force anything.
Intimacy is more than sex – a hug goes a long way too.

Your relationship changes, but together you find ways to stay close.

Nice postures

Being pregnant doesn’t have to stop sex, but your positions need to be smart. Comfort and safety come first – talk to your partner and feel what fits.

Try this one:

Side-by-side: You on your side, partner behind you – no pressure on your stomach and nice and close.
Bed rail: You lie on the edge, legs bent, partner stands – good if lying flat feels heavy.
To sit: On your partner's lap, you decide how – ideal as your belly grows.

Pillows make it even easier. It's all about what you like.

Bumps during sex

Sex can be a bit of a hassle during pregnancy, but that’s normal. Your desire changes, and your body feels different – sometimes more sensitive, sometimes awkward.

Fear of hitting the baby is also common. Don't worry: sex is safe unless you have risks such as a low placenta. Here's what you can do:

Keep talking: Tell your partner what you feel.
Test postures: Find what works now.
Cushions: Extra support helps.
Other intimacy: Cuddling or stroking is also nice.

Phase	Often seen	Solution
Start	Tired, sick	Brief moments, touching
Middle	More meaning	Try something new
End	Discomfort	Support, take it easy

Your pregnancy is unique – do what feels right and ask your midwife if you have any doubts.

Together with your partner

In this special time, you probably have questions about how to stay close to your partner. Openness is everything - talk about what you want and what is different. Really listen and find together what works. Sex is usually safe, but sometimes you have to be careful.

Here are some ideas per phase:

Time	NB	Fun to do
Start	Fatigue	Walking, hugging
Middle	More spice	Yoga, swimming
End	Less easy	Massaging, talking

Feel what you need – love is more than just physical.

Finally

We hope you now know everything about sex when you are pregnant. Every phase is different, so do what suits you. Questions? At Verloskundigen Lelystad in De Koploper we help you with advice that is really for you.

Keep the love alive and enjoy together. Doubts? Call your midwife. That way you start strong together!