Have you ever wondered if dads-to-be can be a little “pregnant” too? Couvade syndrome, or paternity syndrome, is a fascinating phenomenon in which men experience pregnancy symptoms during their partner’s pregnancy. It’s more common than you might think – as many as 65% of future fathers have some form of it, although the severity varies. Midwives Lelystad We see pregnancy as a duo adventure, and we are here to support you both.

A little more: it’s not a myth – it’s a real thing! Men sometimes feel just as involved as their pregnant partner, and their bodies and minds join in. It’s a sign that you’re in it together – a kind of unconscious team spirit.

Symptoms of Couvade Syndrome

What do these men notice? Well, they sometimes pick up the same ailments as their pregnant lover. From morning sickness to headaches and backaches – it’s all possible. Some even get a belly or feel “contractions” when the time comes. It’s in physical and mental symptoms – a whole list!

Physical signals:

That sick feeling in the morning
Hunger that comes and goes
A few extra pounds
Sore back
Stomach that is acting up
Nauseous for no reason
Burning sensation in your throat
Stomach rumbling
Bloated feeling
Pain in your teeth
Cramps in your legs
Trouble down under

Mental signals:

Sleep that goes in all directions
Smells that are suddenly different
Afraid of what's coming
A dip in your mood
Restlessness
Less desire in sex
Mood swings
Forgot what you wanted to say
Tossing and turning nights
Urge to get everything ready

Learn more: It's a mix of your body and your head - sometimes you're feeling your partner's pain, sometimes it's your own stress kicking in. It's weird, but also beautiful how connected you are.

What's behind it?

Why this happens is not entirely clear, but there are ideas. Maybe you want to sympathize with your partner, you are secretly jealous, or stress is taking over. Hormones can also play a role – cortisol, testosterone, estrogen and prolactin fluctuate in men when their wives are pregnant. Scientists think it’s getting you ready to be a dad – your body is adjusting.

Possible triggers:

Wanting attention
Blame her for doing the hard work
Stress about becoming a dad
Panic that everything will change
Jealous of that belly

Bonus: It can also be a mix – you feel her pain and your own nerves. Hormones are a silent player – they soften you up, ready for care.

All over the world

Couvade syndrome is not a Dutch thing – it has been spotted worldwide. In places like Papua New Guinea, China, Thailand, Russia, North America and among the Basques they see it as normal. Some cultures even have rituals around it – a kind of daddy pregnancy party!

More: In those cultures, the man is given a role – he rests with the baby or even pretends to give birth. It’s a sign of involvement – cool, right?

How do you deal with it?

Most of the time it will go away after the birth. A paracetamol or some rest helps with physical ailments. Talk about it – with your partner, friends, or a pro. If it feels really heavy, a psychologist who understands this can give you a boost. At Verloskundigen Lelystad we listen and help you further.

Extra tip: keep it light – laugh about it with your partner, it breaks the tension. A warm bath or a walk can also do wonders.

Midwives Lelystad and Couvade Syndrome

At Midwives Lelystad in Lelystad we see that pregnancy is something for you both – not just for mom. Couvade syndrome shows that – it is a sign that you are a team. We support you through this rollercoaster, with tips and a warm ear, so that you are both ready for that little one.

More: We're not just here for her – you count too. Questions about your stomach ache or nerves? We'll talk it through, without any fuss.

Reading tip

Want more? Check out the book 'Fathers Are Pregnant Too' by Mark Schell – a fun dive into this topic.

No madness in your head

Good to know: Couvade is not a mental disorder – you know you are not carrying a baby. But in rare cases it can become extreme – think of delusions with serious consequences, if there is something brewing in your head.

Bonus: It’s usually harmless – you’re not “crazy.” But if it gets too wild, it’s smart to check.

When to call a pro?

If your symptoms are ruining your day – you can’t get out of bed or you’re exhausted – seek help. A psychologist or your GP can support you and see what’s behind it.

More: It’s not a weakness – it’s smart to ask. A few conversations can get you back on track.

Couvade in a nutshell

Couvade syndrome is a strange thing – expectant fathers sympathize with pregnancy symptoms. It’s not an illness, but a reaction to what your partner is going through. From nausea to mood swings, it varies – and usually goes away on its own once the baby is here. Questions? Call us at Midwives Lelystad – we’re here for you!

Extra: it shows how close you are – your body is saying “I’m in”. With a little support, you keep it light and get the job done together.